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I Am The Problem

September 9, 2019September 9, 2019

For years I struggled in school, I wouldn’t have said I was dumb but I wouldn’t have told you I was super smart either. I hated school. I mean with a passion hated school. I liked the social aspect but really felt what I was learning was super watered down and unrelatable to real life. I would later discover that I struggled with ADHD. I had masked a lot of my problems with learning to be super super organized and did everything in a routine.

The only good thing I had going for me was I liked to read. At a time before YouTube self help videos took over the world and before endless blog forums on how to fix or solve this or that existed. I actually loved to read books. The one book in particular that changed my life forever was a silly calculus book written in the 1940’s (I still have it). I bought it off the used book shelf in the math department on my college campus for $1. ONE DOLLAR! The reason this book changed my life forever was because I was struggling in my college math class. It was hard. The professor was so nice but hard to understand and he had very little ability to teach math to students who weren’t good at math. Like many professors he would rush through the problems, skipping steps that students were supposed to know like the back of their hand and erase as he wrote on the board. My grade was low and I mean so low I was thinking about dropping it and changing my degree all together so I didn’t have to take any more math classes!

What this book did do was change my outlook on learning and self confidence. I got several books that day from the library, broke out my high school math books and started to teach myself step by step math. The one subject that I struggled with for years. I went all the way back to 6^thgrade level math and started reviewing and relearning algebra, algebra 2, Geometry and Trigonometry. I spent weeks relearning and reteaching myself careful to use every step to solve the equation and not skip showing every detail of my work. Then I got to the Calculus book I had bought. This book had step by step directions for some of the equations that my current calculus book was missing! That was it! I know it sounds so silly to be writing about a stupid math class but what this math class did was teach me that I was the problem. It was partially my ADHD but mostly it was me. I was the problem. I had chosen to not put in the work to learn and become good at what I dreaded the most which was anything dealing with mathematics.

In that moment when I was sitting in the floor of my room with tears running down my face something had finally clicked. I finally understood what was being taught in my college class. I would love to say I changed that low low F to an A but I had spent so much time reteaching myself that I ended the semester with a mid C. But C’s are degrees! What I gained most out of that class was self confidence. I learned I was the problem but I was also the solution. I learned to believe in myself. I learned that I could not only do anything but I could also learn anything. In turn it also helped me learn to overcome my fear of testing and I ended up clepping out of more than 4 classes and graduated early from college.

As the years passed and difficult things came up in life I have had to come back to that moment when I decided I was the solution to my problems. Whether it was work, relationships, fixing stuff. If I wanted something to change, I had to be the one willing to change or make the changes to fix it.

So stop complaining about it. Do something! Sometimes all you can do is change how you react to the situation but that is still doing something. Learning you are the problem and also the solution helped give me the confidence to move. I won’t lie and say it isn’t scary. Wrong! It is sometimes scary and hard as hell! I truly believe confidence in yourself can help you succeed in anything you put your mind to. Maybe that’s for another blog.

What I would like people to get out of this blog is you have the power. If something is going wrong, you aren’t happy, maybe you can’t figure something out. Do something different. Don’t tell me you have tried everything. If you have tried everything you wouldn’t have the problem so keep going. Keep learning, researching, reaching out to people till you find the solution.

Don’t like your job, fix it. Change your mindset, go learn a new trade, quit. I don’t know what the right solution is for you but I know you have the power. I love the movie The Devil Wears Prada when Andrea Sachs wines to Nigel about how she is never going to make her boss happy or succeed at her job in the fashion magazine and Nigel looks her straight in the face and says “YOU ARE NOT EVEN TRYING”! Now mind you she was “trying” she was doing her job, what was expected or asked of her but that was it. She wasn’t going above and beyond. She realized she could be doing more, preparing more, dressing the part. Of course like all good Hollywood movies she stepped up to the plate and became the solution to her problems and not only succeeded working under the hardest boss but landed the job of her dreams. So what is it that you need to change? What is it that you are struggling with? Maybe you aren’t doing everything you can do or what needs to be done to reach where you want to be. You first need to understand that you are the problem. Yes you. You are the reason why your job sucks, why your spouse isn’t meeting your needs, why you can’t lose the weight whatever it is. BUT You are also the solution. So believe in yourself and starting now, make the positive changes that need to take place to move you to where you want to be.

Don’t look at the big picture. Set a goal and start with the little steps till you get there. If you look at the big picture you may get overwhelmed and give up. Focus on the little things. You can do it! You are the solution!

No Shame in My Game

March 13, 2019March 13, 2019

What it means to be a true “Hustler”.

Let’s be honest. Working 9 to 5 can be some of the easiest work. You clock in, doing just enough work to keep your job and go home. Then use the rest of your day to contemplate life or whatever it is people do when they have loads of free time!

I will be honest. I have never been a 9 to 5 kinda girl. My mind just never thought that way. Even when I worked as a waitress years ago my mind was on management! How can we make things better, cut costs, the best way to train employees. That was in between going to school and remodeling a house too! I didn’t know it back then but I wasn’t your typical worker. I thought everyone’s lives were like that. It was years later that I realized not everyone does think like that or lives like that. Not everyone wants to be better at what they do. Many are just in it for the paycheck and that’s it. No growth, no goals.

I am assuming that if you are reading this you aren’t like everyone else either. You not only want to be better but you want to be the best. Do you have dreams? What is it that you want in life? Right now things may not look like they are going to where you need to be but I promise if you keep investing in yourself, and working hard you will get there!

What many people won’t tell you about being successful is that it isn’t easy. It’s down right hard sometimes! I decided to stop teaching and start my own concierge business and to be honest I have had to swallow more than my portion of humble pie. I have had so many people say to me “why in the heck would you want to do what you are doing?” “I mean basically you’re a maid!” I just smile and say “in a sense”. I know at that moment that there is no point in trying to tell them exactly what a concierge business is and what I am doing is actually just a stepping stone into everything I am building my company and brand to be in the future. They don’t see that I just passed my real estate exam and plan on getting back into selling real estate like I had done over 14 years ago. They don’t see that I am launching a life coaching business which will be hosting women’s retreats. They don’t see I am not only cleaning toilets and managing homes but I am also managing and training other employees to be the best in the industry at what we do. They can only see what is right in front of them and not what is in the works.

The vision I have isn’t anyone else’s. I don’t need to explain myself or try to win anyone over. You are either with me or you’re not. Don’t get me wrong there are a handful of people that I have let in on what I am passionate about and where I plan on letting that passion lead me. You need those people to be on board or at least understand why you are up in the middle of the night like a crazy person brainstorming, scheduling, planning, making adjustments etc.

For everyone else just smile when you hear little put downs, or negative feedback. You aren’t doing it for them. For me I am doing it not only for myself but for my son. I want him to understand that his mother is willing to do whatever it takes to support him and make a better life for the both of us doing something I love.

I can handle the put downs. I will keep doing what I am doing. Scrubbing toilets, managing homes and taking those little paychecks all the way to the bank. Each client I have is a stepping stone to the multimillion dollar business that is just around the corner.

I can’t wait till I can play that song “started from the bottom now we’re here” and people can see the vision I had for my life in action.

So keep washing dishes, serving customers, sweeping floors or what ever it is you do and politely smile ignoring whatever rudeness someone pukes on you. Remember don’t break a plate over that idiot’s head! You may need to keep that job as a stepping stone to where you want to be. It isn’t who you are. It’s a job period. It’s about putting in the time and doing what needs to be done to get you where you want to be. That is what makes you a true “hustler”.

Be My Valentine

February 11, 2019February 13, 2019

It’s that time of year again! Love is in the air and everything buds with romance. I love this holiday. Not so much the commercialization of it all but I love the hand written notes. Can we all just go back to that? I think it is the one time of year when people profess to each other how much they mean to one another. I love not only when someone says what they mean but when they also write it down. Maybe I am old fashioned but there is something to receiving a nice letter or card from someone you love, telling you how much you mean to them.

It is also the time of year when I hear friends and loved ones disappointed because their significant other didn’t do this or that for Valentine’s Day and how they are let down year after year.

My advice is stop with the expectations! If your sweetheart isn’t a romantic person don’t expect them to be. If you know they love you, then that is enough. If you want them to express it in different ways. Tell them how. They aren’t mind readers and honestly most people don’t know what you need to feel loved unless you tell them. If you never tell them they will always get it wrong.

I have learned over the years to take care of my own needs and to stop passing that responsibility on to someone else. If I feel like it is has been a hard week and I just need some beautiful flowers to cheer me up, I go buy me some! Don’t wait for someone else to come along and do that. You have to find value in yourself and take care of yourself. Whether it is treating yourself to a quiet dinner, flowers, or a movie. Do it. You don’t need someone else to do that stuff for you.

However, when you are in a relationship it is the day to day nice things that you do for each other that you need to be thankful for. Be aware of those things. Make note of it not just mentally but tell the other person how that made you feel and how grateful you are for those little gestures. Those little gestures are often taken for granted and seem to be just expected after time. Don’t let your sweetheart forget how much you need them and are thankful for them. For me I would rather have those sweet little things throughout the year than one day of forced romance.

So Happy Valentine’s Day to you! May it be filled with appreciation, kindness and love.

If you miss out on Valentine’s Day or don’t care for the commercialized holiday feel free to celebrate with me on February 15th when flowers and candy are 50% off! One of my favorite days to celebrate and splurge on myself.

We are all Young and Dumb

January 30, 2019January 30, 2019

Often growing up I can remember thinking I was never pretty enough, skinny enough, or smart enough. I am not exactly sure when those ideas started forming in my head and why I constantly thought I had to compare myself to others. Sadly I confirmed some of those ideas with little comments here and there that I heard from friends and family. Now looking back I am sure the comments were off the cuff supposed to be funny or people weren’t even serious but somehow in my twisted brain they clung to me. Those comments and words enforced my insecurities.

For years I battled myself, my inner thoughts, my inner critic. The more I bettered myself and grew the quieter those voices would be. But like the waves on an ocean they would come back, loud and vicious. It wasn’t until I had my son that I finally was able to see a glimpse of myself as God sees me.

I remember it so vividly. When I sat in that hospital bed holding my son. This wave of calming peace came over me. I looked into his beautiful blue eyes and my breath was taken away. Literally! I was overwhelmed with how perfectly made he was. Not just because he had ten fingers and ten toes (I did count them) but the greatness this child had within him. This little thing hadn’t even spoken a word or done anything to prove that he was funny, or brilliant in any way. Yet there I was in awe of how powerful he was and how he was full of unlimited potential.

In that moment it clicked! That is how God sees me. Tears rolled down my face as I thought how crazy it was that I had gone all those years critiquing every detail of myself, breaking myself down, when I too am powerful and full of unlimited potential. I would love to say I hung on to that moment and immediately started living my life just as I saw myself in that moment. It has taken me years of learning to get rid of that inner enemy.

Les Brown quoted an African proverb “When there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm.”

I truly believe there is nothing I can’t do. Nothing I can’t learn, and there is nothing that I am fearful of. I whole heartedly believe that what you speak over yourself is manifested. In getting to this place I no longer worry about what people say about me. That doesn’t mean opinions don’t matter, I just don’t let other’s opinions of myself and my goals deter me from where I’m going. I have learned the opinions of others are founded in their own insecurities and understandings anyways (but that’s for another blog).

Like I said to get to this place in my life has taken many years. The little baby that I held in my arms isn’t so little any more. I am so very thankful that he still lets me hold him and hug him but that little baby is a young man standing at one of the cross roads in life. Just about to graduate high school where he must choose a direction. Where he will go to college, and what he will study. It kills me sometimes when I hear him speak negatively of himself. When I hear him talk about the self doubt and insecurities he has. I just want to shake him! I know it is his journey in life and he has to learn to believe in himself. I just can’t help seeing him like I saw him for the very first time.

How young and dumb we all really are! How many years we waste on stuff that doesn’t matter. Fighting an inner battle on thoughts that are based on falsehoods.

As a mom all you want your kids to do is go out in the world and be happy. He rolls his eyes when I tell him how handsome and smart he is. Telling me “you have to say that you’re my mom”. If only he could see what I see. Despite his imperfections and the dumb stuff he does, I can’t help but see he has the world in the palm of his hands. Like everyone else he has unlimited potential and greatness waiting to be unleashed if only he is willing to believe in himself.

Go For It!

January 22, 2019January 30, 2019

My biggest fear for the majority of my life was failing. As I type this now I laugh thinking how silly that was. I was afraid to follow several of my dreams, to step out in faith and really go for it. It wasn’t that I didn’t have faith in God but I didn’t have faith in myself. I can’t say that I haven’t been successful, for by the grace of God I have been blessed beyond measure despite my unwillingness to push beyond my own limited vision. For years I sat with visions and ideas that I kept buried away. I picked the paths that were “safe”. I wanted to desperately to be “normal”, I wanted to be fulfilled with a nine to five job, with the community volunteer work, the Saturday night get togethers with friends. It just wasn’t enough.

I don’t know why I am restless. Why I feel like I have so much in me that is just bursting to get out, to learn, to teach, to create! I often wondered if I was the only one who felt like this until I came across this quote in a self help book “Cemeteries are full of unfulfilled dreams… countless echoes of “could have” and “should have”… Don’t choose to walk the well-worn path to regret.” – Steve Maraboli

That quote shook me to my core. I was normal! I was trying, like so many people, to drown out that inner voice by keeping busy in day to day life, but suddenly it occurred to me..how long would that inner voice keep pushing to the surface before it finally gave up? Was that the real normalcy? This life is so so so short. Would I die with all these things pent up inside me?

So I sat down and starting writing out some of my dreams, visions. I discussed them with some of my closest friends and family. That, I learned, is something you have to be very careful with. When you start discussing ideas with people, you have to remember those dreams were not given to them. Not only will they not get as excited as you but will probably try and talk you out of doing whatever is in your heart to do! Remember people don’t do this out of malice, but they are given a limited view of what you have been entrusted with. You can’t pass your passion for something on to another person, that is something that burns inside you.

After years of self doubt, and hesitation I decided to go for it! I don’t know what finally gave me confidence. I couldn’t tell you the moment when I quit letting fear paralyze me. I just remember being so overwhelmed with ideas, and visions for my future. That I was so taken over by this feeling that if I didn’t start letting these things inside me come to life that I too was going to go to my grave with things that were meant to be shared with the world. If one person finds hope to live the life they were called to because of my ramblings is that not worth it? I love the parable in Luke 15:4 where Jesus talks about the shepherd leaving the 100 sheep to go find the 1 that was lost. If all I do and say in this world is able to help 1 person than I will not have lived in vain.

I don’t know what your calling is. What your dream is. What I do know is, you don’t need to be afraid of failing. The truth is I fail a lot! Each time I get a little better and a little smarter and just keep trying to get it right. You are going to fail. If you never try you have failed already. If you are doing something you have never done, you can’t expect to do everything right the first time! Give yourself permission to mess up, but give yourself permission to keep trying till you meet your goals. Whatever it is that you are passionate about GO FOR IT! Do your research, go learn from the best, go read books, go to seminars whatever you need to do to start turning those dreams to reality.

How to find time to do it all!

January 5, 2019January 18, 2019

Let’s be honest there is never enough time in the day to do all the things we need or want to do in the day. I use to dream about not going to sleep just so I could get more things done. I was so happy in my dream telling everyone how we don’t really need sleep and how much nicer it was to be able to work 24hrs a day. I am not so sure that was a dream but more of a nightmare! However, I do often ponder how much more productive I would be if I didn’t have to sleep.

The truth is sleep is very important to our body and mental state. I didn’t realize how important sleep was until I had my son. He was such a good baby he just never slept! He wasn’t ever crabby or upset he just didn’t want to sleep. I used to envy mothers who would brag about how they got their baby on a sleep schedule, when I couldn’t sleep for fear something would happen to my little one the second I took my eyes off of him. Being a first time parent far from family even made it worse for me. I would go days with little to no sleep while my husband went to college and worked. I remember driving home to my parents house which was only three hours away just so I could crash for hours at a time while my son goo-gooed and smiled happily with his grandparents. If you haven’t had the experience of having a new born and the joys of no sleep it is a horrible and wonderful experience all at the same time and crazily I miss those days!

What I found out during that time though was that the lack of sleep really messed with my brain and body. I had trouble remembering things, I would become frazzled easily, I started gaining weight and felt more lethargic than ever in my life. The good news is we got into a rhythm and found what worked for our family. I finally started getting more than two hours of sleep at a time and slowly inched my way back to normal.

As time went by and life got busier I had to learn to prioritize. I mean we all have the same amount of time in the day. I have found the best way for me to gain extra time in the day was to schedule my entire day. I like to think of it is like meal prepping but with time! I used to wonder how on earth people had time to go to work, be a good parent, go to the gym, run errands, read, watch their favorite movie and have sex! Then I learned when I scheduled my day I had to decide what was most important to me. The other stuff I had to learn to delegate (which is what inspired my business) and anything left either wasn’t important or would have to be put off and scheduled to another day or time.

So the best investment to make to find time to do it all is a calendar, and a great assistant. Seriously, you have to learn to humble yourself enough to ask for help. Learning to delegate is huge in life especially as a woman. We are taught early on that doing it all, on our own somehow makes us a better wife or mother when that is so far from the truth.

The saying that goes “if momma ain’t happy nobody’s happy” is so true! Having a wife that takes time to eat healthy, exercise, and manage a household with help leads to a much happier, sexier and sane person to live with.

To gain time starting today. Go buy some kind of calendar and start pre-planning your day and week. I have used several calendars over the years, but this year I personalized my own calendar from https://www.limelifeplanners.com. I know several people who like to use the calendars on their phones but there is something about writing it down on paper that helps my brain register and remember. Whatever avenue you prefer just be consistent and set out time everyday and week to plan. It will be much easier to turn down things you don’t have time for when you write down what your priorities are for the week and can see it hour by hour.

Learn how to get what you want in life.

January 4, 2019February 13, 2019

There is something to be said about beginning again, starting fresh. Jumping out of the shower this morning with my hair wrapped in a towel and without makeup on I look at myself in the mirror. In that moment I felt it, it was my fresh start. I wasn’t planning on making some grand new venture or some life altering decision. The hot shower after a long day of putting out fires and catastrophes just helped remind me that each day no matter what time of day, we have the opportunity to start again. To let the past be in the past, make better choices, make amends, try again, to be a better person. It all just starts in one small moment.

To get what you want in life you have to identify what you want and be passionate.
So for you my friend, my reader if this applies to you and you have a desire stirring I have homework for you. The first part of the assignment is to get quiet today. Seriously. Our world is so loud! Turn off the phone, the television, maybe even the lights and focus on your breathing. No other sounds, no outside distractions just you alone in your thoughts.

The second part of the assignment is you need to get a calendar or planner (one you can write in) and some type of notebook for journaling. I know exactly what your are thinking…journaling (insert eye roll). It may sound silly but it is very important to be able to write things down and go back months from now to not only look at your progress but hold yourself accountable.

Once you have your journal I want you to write this question down :

What do I WANT?

Really, what do you want in life? Not what is expected of you, not what you think you are supposed to want but what do YOU want right now in your life? List it out. Right now! Come on if you don’t do the assignments you won’t see the results. Go make a list no matter how trivial you think it is I want you to list out what it is you want in this life personally, and professionally or both. Be very specific! If you want to be happy that is great but that is to vague. What will make you happy? When will you know if you are happy? The more specific you are the better.
Then after you make your list I want you to write this question down:

Why?

I know this may sound silly and simple but for each thing above that you wrote down I want you to write why do you want it? There are really two reasons it is important to write down the whys. Mainly it is to identify your needs. We will get into those later but each of us has fundamental needs that need to be met. Sometimes asking the why you want something helps identify what needs are not being met in your life so you can not only realize that but learn to adjust your life so you can meet those needs and be a happier, healthier you. The second reason to write down the whys is so you can build determination and passion. Let’s be honest if you don’t know why you want something then there will be no reason to do what it takes to get it. Your hunger, your passion for why you want something is going to help carry you through to meet your goals and dreams on the days when you can’t get outta bed. On the days when you want to give up, when everyone tells you it’s to hard. You need to look back on this why list so you can remind yourself why you are pushing yourself, why you are getting up and trying again.

We will later come back to this journal entry and start figuring out what it will take to make what you want a reality!

One of my dearest friends shared a comic strip with me one day at work. It was a man asking the question : How do you eat an elephant?

Answer: One bite at a time.

Congratulations and Thank you for joining me on this journey! Now in your your planner I want you to mark today’s date in it. There is no better time then right now to start moving towards your goals!

The 4 Keys on How to Center Yourself

January 4, 2019January 20, 2019

When you feel out of wack and life gets chaotic, stressful and you start feeling that the burden of life and responsibilities of this world are weighing you down I would encourage you to center yourself.

The first time I told someone that I was on an airplane headed to Dallas to buy a car and the older man seated next to me started telling me his whole life story and problems till I couldn’t take on any more of his negative energy.

So I simply asked him what is he doing to center himself. “What kind of hippy talk is that” he spewed back. I then went on to explain to him that in times of crisis and weakness Jesus would often sneak away from his disciples and people to get quiet with God and pray. Regardless of what your beliefs are Jesus is a pretty neat guy and I think anything he did and said is pretty important. Now I am not trying to say I am perfect or that I am just like Jesus but if someone with that much pressure and turmoil felt it was important to get alone and quiet I always thought that was something wise we should do too.

As a person of science I think there is more to just getting alone that we as humans need. Without getting into to much detail or going to far down a rabbit hole I will just say I believe the following: we along with all things are made up of atoms and energy. Those atoms and energy give off frequencies which cause waves. When those frequencies are interrupted by other atoms and energies that don’t align with us fractures in our reality start to take place. Fractures occur in many forms but we take them on everyday as stress.

So how do you keep yourself in alignment or as I refer to as centered? You can do it several different ways but there are four keys take to center yourself.

The first key is diet. Keeping your alkalinity balanced, with a minimal consumption of processed foods. That means eating everything in proportion to your needs. Lots of fresh fruits and vegetables with a portion of meat. I am not against having small treats here and there but don’t binge on takeout or snack cakes. Along with a balanced diet is drink water! I don’t know what is the right amount for you, but I have at least four large water bottles a day along with mixing in various glasses of tea or lemonade. Again if you have a soda or glass of wine, no worries just don’t overindulge and be sure and drink the water on top of that during the day.

The second key is exercise. Everyone knows they should exercise but I don’t think people understand how much our bodies really do need it to stay healthy and centered. Get moving! I don’t know what the limits are on your your body but you need to be active and find something to get your heart rate up. Do not let the excuses of I don’t have time or there isn’t a gym close to me or I don’t have money to attend a gym or classes. Exercise is free. Go out and walk or jog or run or bicycle. Get on the internet and search for free work out videos! Go to the library and check out the free workout videos there. There are many cheap ways and resources to use to help you exercise. So no excuses on this! For myself I like to do the treadmill or elliptical for 10 min then lift weights for 15 then interchange the two for 10-15 min giving me a total workout daily of 35-40 min. You have to make it happen. Trust me you will never have time to work out. You have to make time. Make it a priority. You have to learn to make yourself and your health a priority.

The third key is rest. This by far has always been the hardest for me to overcome. Mostly because I have a hard time sleeping. There is just so much I want to do and accomplish and learn that I forget that sleeping is just as important as being active. You need to sleep. I don’t know what amount of sleep is best for you. Dr’s will say people need 8 hours of sleep a night. I am not so sure. Some people operate on 6 hrs and feel great some people need 9. Each person has to listen to their body and really experiment with different amounts of sleep until they find the amount that fits their needs. However, sleep can also be used negatively. If you find yourself sleeping in excess, or if you feel you want to sleep all the time that is also a sign of possible health problems and depression. If you find that is you, you need to address that with a health professional. So be aware of yourself. A good way to gage yourself is by how you react to the world on different amounts of sleep. If you are irritable or grouchy I would say maybe try a bit more sleep until you find that balance where you feel good and rested.

The fourth key is recharge in nature. In my previous post I mentioned that energies around you can cause you to get out of alignment. There is a lot more to that but the short version is you need to get your energy back in alignment and the way to do that is by using the atoms and energies found in nature. So go outside. If it is warm, take your shoes off and stand in the grass. This is what is often called grounding yourself. Go out and be around trees, and grass and plants. Breath in the goodness they bless us with. My favorite place to go is the beach. I love to put my feet in the sand and stand in the sun and feel the energy of the ocean hitting the shore. There truly is science in how the ions are released from the ocean as the water hits the shore and helps recharge us. Hence, all the salt lamps that have been around for years. Right now it is hard for me to get to the beach, so I am eagerly awaiting the women’s retreat coming up this summer so I can recharge at the ocean. I understand that is not something everyone can do everyday.

Whereever it is you can go to be out in nature go stand in the sun and focus on your breathing. Close your eyes and remind yourself how blessed you are, speak those things outloud. Tell yourself today is a good day and be grateful for the things and opportunities you have. Be grateful for the people that are in your life that bring light to you and the people and opportunities that are going to come into your life. Speak those things outloud to yourself. Proclaim those things over yourself and your life. The universe will reflect back to you the energy and declarations you proclaim.

Once you learn to master these four key elements you will start to feel yourself become centered. Sometimes things will come up and life will smack you between the eyes. That is normal. Life can be hard and cruel but I have found that if you can refocus your energy in those chaotic moments; Take a drink of water, breath deep, close your eyes, speak blessings over yourself. That those moments of chaos slow down, and your spirit is then able to handle and meet those challenges without feeling frazzled, or overwhelmed.

It takes practice. It takes training. You have to train your mind and condition your body so you are strong inside and out.